They’re standing in a group, the teenagers outside my work-place, but there’s no communication between them. They’re all texting, frowning at their upheld mobile phones in stances that strike me as Shakespearean (Alas pr Yrk). Perhaps they are texting each other. I stare, composing a blog-post about them in my head, and one of them, thumbing a keypad with one hand while drinking coke cross-eyed through a straw, suddenly scents me and looks up. For a terrible moment I actually think: Wait - can she see my thoughts? Are they appearing on her screen? Can phones do that now?
I have not made the transition into our current age. It took me a long time to get used a phone vibrating on my person. I went through a long phase of experiencing phantom buzzing. Once a packet of fish fingers seemed to vibrate in my hand in the Frozen aisle in Sainsbury’s and I answered it. Back when I was a school mentor, sometimes the whole classroom would buzz, and not with enthusiasm: the kids could not leave their gadgets alone. They loved them. They stole each other’s stuff. Friends often stole from friends. It was a girl’s school. I noticed that if a girl stole another’s boyfriend, reconciliation was possible. If a girl stole another’s Samsung, things would get seriously Old Testament. (You’ve never seen a stoning until you’ve seen someone being pelted with twenty Motorola Pebls.)
Perhaps, like me, you are one of those people who finds it easy to grumble about kids today and their techno-materialism. Take this easy test: If you punctuate your text messages scrupulously and never abbreviate, you and I are soul-mates (or ‘slmts’, as the kids would put it). We are the kind of people who tell our kids they should get out more, and wish that other people’s kids got out less.
But these kids did not invent the gadgets that hypnotise them. They did not invent the Xbox. They do not sell themselves ringtones. My generation came up with lots of that stuff. Moreover, it is adults who profit from all the industries that seek to keep youths in a state of high excitement. Selling to kids is very big business; it pays to have children forever wanting more. And as someone who works in I.T., albeit tangentially (in recruitment), I am profiteering just like all the others.
I wish I had something better to hand on to the next generation. Any ideas?
This is a blog about ethical recruitment, so I’ll finish this post with a quick note about work. I’ve said before that those of us who choose to work hard for most of our lives deserve more than pay; we deserve for our careers to make us happy. Our time outside work shouldn't feel like respite. We should be able to honestly promise our children that working hard at things they enjoy – or with people they like being around - will most likely bring them happiness as well as a living. Otherwise, the only incentive we can give to kids to work hard is that they’ll be able to buy more of the crap we tell them they need.
The thing is, I don’t think we can or should expect our bosses to hand out happiness. We need to look out for each other, somehow. We need to be the custodians of other people’s careers, trying to creating environments in which everyone's talents get recognised, put to use and rewarded. We should help each other find the roles, the companies, and the colleagues we’re best suited to. Recruitment companies can help do this, obviously, by caring more about people than about immediate profits. That is what the ethical recruitment movement is about: how we can do this without going broke. But how can people outside recruitment transform the world of work? How can we make our employers look at us and think, ‘These people really want each other to be happy here’? ‘These people are trying to help each other succeed’?
Any ideas?
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Comments
You're right. I'm actually a complete txt machine.
Funny, I was just over at your 'place' seeing how you got on this weekend. Glad you had a good time, and commiserations about Everton... Although you're being extremely sportsmanlike about it.
ha ha i knew it :-) it used to annoy me till i realised i do use it without thinking ha ha
cheers mate - yeah had a good night on Sat thanks :-) as per my post ended up in Crewe but was ace. that polish bar was mega - all the women were well fit , looked like a lapdancers dressing room in there :-) yeah the footy was a bad deal but if you're beaten fair & square which we were you just have to admit it & move on.
did you get up too much?
I like the part about being stoned by Pebls. Oh, and how we're the ones creating this stuff and selling it to the kids. Makes it ironic how much we dislike the way they're abusing it. But kids will do that.
Now that's cutting-edge motivational leadership.
ha ha no they don't - no wonder they're half cut all the time :-) i spose there is that - like you say can be a tricky operation gettin to the bar when you've had a few
Tyskie was ok i thought - the plan was that it would make us look like locals at least so we'd blend in ha ha.talking in english soon scuppered that plan though ha ha. not heard of that Lech - will have to have that next time. i reckon theres humour in going to the bar asking for a Lech too :-)
don't worry about it mate - same here so i always have to wait to listen to ppls stuff at home unless i can get on someone elses here :-)
have you heard about that man whos having a baby?
no i don't think so mate cos i heard it yesterday i think - maybe he's jus fat and ppl have got the wrong idea
You mean if I eat twenty Greggs pasties a day for the next couple of months, I can get a year's maternity leave?
Sorted.
You probably know by now that the 'man' having a baby is a female-male transexual who decided to keep 'his' womb and associated bits and bobs. While respecting 'his' rights to call himself whatever he likes, I do wonder just how male a man can be when he has a full set of female reproductive organs and presumably no dangly bits.
As for the employment issue, couldn't agree more. I work for an employment charity. While our efforts are geared towards those who the system has completely failed for whatever reason, it's humbling to see how much difference just having a job - in some cases any job - makes to someone's self-esteem.
Gawd. How nauseatingly worthy of me - ack.
It can be a hard sell - difficult to compete with babies with leukaemia,f or example, for scarce funding - esp when folk think the government should be doing what we're doing (we'd be very happy indeed if they were ...). But it is very moving to see people who've succeeded with a bit of a leg-up from us (one bloke at one of our annual Awards ceremonies a couple of years ago burst into tears when his wife limped up on crutches to receive her award - he was blubbing like a baby and this was a roughy toughy Glaswegian with a couple of impressive knife scars on his face. Bless.)
Here you go - pressie forya: man having a baby .
I was hoping you'd post an anecdote.
My stepdad is in the finding-jobs-for-the-out-of-work arm of the government and he's mummified in red tape. If nobody was doing the kind of thing you're doing, it simply wouldn't get done, and a lot of people desperately need advocates. They can always give money to the babies too.
Thanks for the pressie. Karate black belt and weight-lifter! Great stuff.
Delete browsing history? *Click*.
We work with a lot of government departments and also have a lot of red tape to contend with because of that - so believe me, I have loads of sympathy for those at the coalface ...
And very wise to delete the history. Did you spot the 'ex Beauty Queen' bit before you got rid?
How did I miss that?
A true Jack and Jill of all trades.
You're probably not wrong.